Transform Your Life and Body: 5 Musts
I once had this client, we’ll call Adriana. Adriana had worked out in the past, had tried lots of workout programs and diets, but when she worked with me, she transformed her body and told me, “John, you know you’ve changed my life. I mean that. I can’t thank you enough.”
As amazing as that is to hear, and I am truly grateful, I know it’s also not completely true. I say that because I didn’t change her life, she did. I just helped guide her, but she did the work and put in the time and effort.
Then there is another client that I’ll call Linda. Linda came to me, motivated to workout, and just like Adriana, she had worked out, tried many workout programs and diets. When she worked with me, she didn’t transform her body or her life. Granted, she also only came in for 5 sessions, but there was a fundamental difference of their mindsets.
In much the same way, have you ever watched someone transform their body and asked yourself, “I wonder what they did?”
You may be asking that in terms of “what diet did they follow,” or, “what workout did they do,” but I can tell you that after 15 years of seeing and helping people transform their bodies, although those things can be important, what is much more important are 6 Mindset Shifts that happen.
(As a quick aside, last week I talked about Desire – that would be the 7th Mindset shift, as everyone that changes their body desires it, so I won’t repeat that again)
Transform Your Body: 6 Mindset Shifts
1. They See Challenges as Good Things
They know working out is going to be hard and they are excited about it. They know that changing their eating isn’t going to be easy, but they’re excited about being able to change their eating and their health. They look forward to these challenges, because they know that by overcoming those challenges, they are becoming better and are moving in the direction that they truly want to move in. They don’t shy away from them, but instead welcome them.
2. They are Pinnacles of Consistency
They show up, whether or not they are motivated. Whether or not they have energy. If they’re tired or hungry, or stressed out. Almost nothing that life throws at them is an excuse, because they know excuses only have power when you accept those excuses…and in general, they are not willing to accept excuses.
This is closely aligned with…
3. They Adapt to Situations as They Arise
If they go to the gym and the equipment that they wanted to use is taken, they find a substitute. If they’re at work and get stuck in a meeting where they can’t have their food, they have a healthy snack to hold them over until they can eat. If they travel, they find ways to eat healthy. If they’re out at a team dinner or out for drinks, they have the healthier options and control both portion sizes and the amount of alcohol. they have.
They are not tied to one particular method, and are willing to make adaptations if they need to. But this doesn’t mean that they are constantly program hopping or going from fad to fad, but instead stay consistent, but make changes as they need to.
4. They’re Slightly Obsessed with Their Goals
In any realm of life, have you seen anyone make significant positive changes without becoming slightly obsessed? I know I haven’t. Not one person.
And yet, every single person I know who has transformed his or her life, they’ve always been undercut or outright criticized by those most close to them with phrases of…
“Don’t you think you’re taking this too seriously?”
“Damn, do you ever relax?”
“Live a little.”
“You don’t have to be anal.”
But the bottom line is that if you’re not on the outside looking in saying, “Damn, that person is serious,” usually they’re not.
And that’s the point. No one makes changes without making it a focal point of their lives. They realize that and make the shifts to their lives that they need to make, but that is a direct effect of…
5. They Take Ownership of Their Lives
Bottom line. They take ownership of their lives and their health. They stop offering excuses for other’s displeasure about them changing their lives for the better. The friends who feel uncomfortable with them not drinking as much. The friends who are upset that you’re not scarfing down appetizers, bread, and desserts. Loved ones who aren’t happy about the healthier meals that have been on the menu.
They don’t try to ostracize their friends or family, obviously, but they stop pandering to their discomfort. They do that and they reframe those interactions, however they best see fit.
Your friends who are uncomfortable for you not drinking, are still your friends. You recognize that those friends are just scared of being judged and are judging themselves, even if slightly subconsciously, by the example that you’re setting and don’t want that judgment. So to avoid feeling judged, they try to get you to join in, in their fun.
You just have to find ways for your friends, family, and all too often, co-workers, to accept your decisions as yours and theirs as theirs, while still enjoying each other’s company.
Yesterday, one of my friends posted a video of a lion being surrounded and subsequently attacked by hyenas. Besides eliciting flashbacks of Simba and the Lion King, it brought up one other important part.
Everyone, even those who are obsessed, who take ownership of their lives, who are consistent and yet adaptable, sometimes need a little help from their friends.
Often times, they need to find others who are going through the same thing or they get help from a friend or a mentor. If you’re an athlete, no matter if you’re one of the greatest athletes of all time, you will still have a coach.
No matter what the changes or circumstances, no one does their best in a vacuum. Instead, everyone finds help – whether that’s help from someone who knows more, or just someone going through the same thing – and that helps them stay consistent.
For those who transform their lives and bodies, there are 6 Mindset Shifts that Occur
1. They See Challenges as Good Things. They look forward to these challenges, because they know that by overcoming those challenges, they are becoming better and are moving in the direction that they truly want to move in.
2. They are Pinnacles of Consistency. They show up, whether or not they are motivated.
3. They Adapt to Situations as They Arise. They are not tied to one particular method, and are willing to make adaptations if they need to.
4. They’re Slightly Obsessed with Their Goals. In any realm of life, have you seen anyone make significant positive changes without becoming slightly obsessed? I know I haven’t. Not one person.
5. They Take Ownership of Their Lives. They take ownership of their lives and their health. They stop offering excuses for other’s displeasure about them changing their lives for the better.
6. They Get Help. No matter what the changes or circumstances, no one does their best in a vacuum.
So the question is, how many of these mindset shifts have you taken on if you’re trying to change your health, fitness, or transform your body?
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